The author shares thoughts about the upcoming hot summer and personal experiences interacting with a pool that sometimes takes on a greenish tint. However, despite this, the author enjoys swimming late at night when it is quiet, and likes the feeling of temperature drop after submerging, as it helps regulate the nervous system and promotes faster sleep.
Recently, the author contemplated the concept of thermal exposure, which they had not previously explored. Although some might consider this eccentric, the author clarifies that their definition of 'kink' might not be entirely accurate. They provide an example of running a piece of ice across the skin, causing goosebumps, to explain that thermal exposure implies contrasts between hot and cold.
The erotic potential of heat waves, such as in South Africa, is discussed. Beyond obvious consequences like sweating, the need for three daily showers or baths, and using a fan, summer offers many opportunities for such games. Thermal exposure uses extreme thermal contrasts to enhance sensory perception. For instance, at 30°C at midnight when the water heater is running, adding an ice shock to warm skin causes goosebumps and awakens tired nerve endings.
How to Use the Cold Sensation
Instead of using regular ice cubes that melt into a puddle on the mattress, it is recommended to take stainless steel or borosilicate glass toys available at Lola Montez and place them in the refrigerator for 15–20 minutes before starting the game. To maintain coldness near the bed, an ice container can be used.
Metal and glass are preferred because, unlike body-safe silicone, medical glass and stainless steel retain low temperatures excellently without degradation. They provide ultra-smooth, icy gliding over the chest, inner thighs, and erogenous zones.
It is also possible to alternate the consumption of chilled water before oral sex or use cooling lubricants to maintain the sensation of cold. The author advises thinking about the contrast between hot and cold, noting that warm water (not boiling) works just as well.
How to Create the Warm Sensation
The 'warm sensation' refers to playing with wax candles. The author admits to some apprehension regarding candles after his cousin's house burned down due to a curtain catching fire from an unextinguished candle. They emphasize that candles are rarely used in their home, but due to power outages, they have become necessary, and they started using exotic scented candles, enjoying how they dip their fingers into the wax.
Candles are among the most versatile bedroom items, serving as both decorative elements and aids for achieving orgasm. If one wants to 'heat up' the atmosphere, the best tool might be right by the bed.
Before starting, one should familiarize themselves with the necessary conditions and several important tips for safely conducting romantic temperature games.
Thermal Safety Rules
It is necessary to avoid the freezer: never put metal or glass toys in the freezer, as frozen metal can stick to mucous membranes and cause thermal burns. One must strictly adhere to the standard refrigerator compartment.
Always check the temperature: before applying warm oil to sensitive skin, it must be tested on the back of the wrist, and cooled toys—on the arm.
Never use silicone in the refrigerator: for temperature games, porous glass and steel should be chosen, and silicone toys should be stored at a comfortable room temperature.
For candles: choose an erotic scent. Although aphrodisiacs are usually associated with food, such as oysters or chocolate, scents possess a similar erotic power. Vanilla is a natural aphrodisiac, while jasmine and sandalwood have served as sensual stimulants for centuries, and ginger improves blood circulation to boost mood in the bedroom.
Do not try to play with old candles: the temptation to grab a random tea light from a table should be avoided. Standard household candles melt at high temperatures and can cause serious burns requiring emergency room attention. Always use a specialized formula, such as Lola Montez Sensual Seduction Massage Candle. This candle contains plant oils with a low melting point and rich shea butter, which heats up to a silky, warm liquid, safely spreading over the skin and saturating the partner with essential oils for pleasure, not pain.
Consider the bedding: mess can be fun, but if you value high thread count sheets, plan ahead. Warm oil and wax are very difficult to remove. It is better to lay down a dark towel, forgo the favorite nightgown, and play freely without worrying about irreversible damage to the bedding. You can go further and purchase latex sheets for fun sliding.
Preheating the candle: do not light the candle until you are completely undressed. The massage candle needs about 15 minutes to melt into a usable pool of warm oil. This is similar to preheating coals before using a barbecue. Once the oil is warm, soft, and ready, extinguish the flame before pouring.
Fire safety: Playing with fire can be sexual, but dangerous. In the heat of the moment, it is easy to forget basic fire safety rules while performing acrobatic feats. Keep lit candles away from loose curtains, blankets, or mosquito nets. Always communicate with your partner verbally so that both remain in the zone of pleasure, not the zone of pain.
The author concludes by hinting that the next column will discuss the topic of a safe word that every couple should have and when it should be used.